9 minutes | Tuesday, March 1, 2022
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§ Today is World Compliment Day and it is meant to spread joy through simple verbal affirmations of appreciation – not physical but verbal. A compliment is expressing admiration, compliments, encouragement, or respect. What better way to spread love than to make someone feel good about themselves?
§ Essentially, complimenting someone involves a verbal expression, rather than material gifts and it can really make someone’s day. When you give a compliment, you show other people that you appreciate all aspects of them – including appearance, actions, words, etc
§ Those who give sincere, genuine compliments are typically more likeable by others, which can go a long way when wanting to succeed in your personal and professional life. However, compliments can come off as creepy or unwelcome so ensure that the compliments you give are in a positive way. Keep your agenda out of it. Telling someone they are attractive because you genuinely want to tell them is a good thing, telling them they are hot because you want to be intimate with them does not come off as positive for most people.
§ When giving compliments, sincerity is paramount. When you are not sincere, people know it and it comes off very negatively.
§ One way of really sounding genuine is attaching a compliment to something someone values or worked hard on. Telling someone you really enjoyed reading something they wrote and WHY you enjoyed it means a lot more than saying “good for you for writing something”.
§ If there is something, they are proud of or passionate about that is another good place to start when giving compliments.
§ Also, make sure that your compliments are specific rather than general.
§ Context is essential as well. The right compliment in the right scenario can go a long way. In the wrong context, a compliment can be taken the wrong way.
§ Many people are uncomfortable receiving compliments, me being one of them. If you are one of these people, normalize saying “thank you” when someone compliments you.
§ If you are looking for examples of compliments, here are some ideas (you can find more here): you're an awesome friend, I’m grateful for you, you look fantastic today, you are strong, you are smart, I really like your perspective on “x”, your kindness makes such an impact, I really appreciated how you handled that situation, I love being around you, etc
§ TRY THIS: Write down what you genuinely appreciate about people in your life and tell them.
§ POST IT NOTE: I will compliment others in an authentic way