8 minutes | Thursday, September 23, 2021
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Instant chemistry. The “wow factor“. Does it really matter? Well, yes and no.
• Do you need chemistry to make a relationship work? I think it is important, yes. Do you need INSTANT chemistry? No, not necessarily.
• The problem with the current dating environment is that people are looking for that initial spark, the WOW, the fireworks when they first meet someone. If they don’t feel it then they’ll discount the person completely. I say that is WRONG.
• I’ve at time had instant chemistry and sometimes not. It definitely wasn’t the deciding factor in whether things worked out.
• While you still need to feel some interest, usually chemistry that builds rather than hits you in the face is more sustainable.
• Good relationships are the product of building a solid foundation of trust, love, honesty, respect, consideration, generosity, passion and attraction. Also, common interests and values. Good relationships are two people walking in the same direction, together, side by side. Everything else is the pretty packaging, including instant chemistry.
• If people actually made an effort and let go of their unrealistic expectations perhaps there would be more successful relationship out there. Just a thought.
• If there is attraction and a general interest in the person then I think you should give it a shot. Build the chemistry. Those WOW moments will come.
• Attraction and general interest? yes? No chemistry? No problem. Try it anyway.
• Instant chemistry is overrated, especially the older you get. Stop looking for it and expecting it. It certainly is not a guarantee of relationship success.
• POST IT NOTE / MANTRA: I will not trust fireworks alone