9 minutes | Tuesday, November 23, 2021
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Divorce sucks! It TOTALLY sucks! I can say that from personal experience. You feel like a totally failure in life. You question “forever”. Your trust of others goes down the toilet. Regardless of why you divorce, even if it’s amicable, it’s never easy. It scars you for life BUT it’s not a death sentence.
• It seems that divorce has become even more common after the pandemic forced couples to live and work under the same roof. Whatever was left of some relationships was decimated.
• This has propelled people back into the volatile dating world, one, most likely, much different than that one they left several years back.
• Many people do, however, go on to find their happily ever after. I did and so have many. Nothing is impossible. It calls for some personal work first, though.
1. Take care of YOU – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually … this means BEING the ideal partner to find the ideal partner. Do the work necessary BEFORE starting to seriously look for love.
2. Stay Social - there are so many activities and events around that there is no excuse not to get out … the best way to get out of your rut is to be around other people and doing things that make you most happy.
3. Keep Intimacy in Check - Your need to feel wanted and loved may cloud your judgment, I made lots of mistakes early on in my separation and divorce because of this, and I thought I was unlucky in love but I was making a lot of bad choices.
4. Don’t Define Yourself by Your Divorce – Divorce happened to you but not who you are and you are more than what happened to you. When speaking with others, don’t put what happened to you front and centre. You are not one dimensional. Don’t be a victim, nor a survivor, be a warrior.
• Divorce isn’t a death sentence so: Be patient. Have hope. Be grateful. Be happy. LIVE LIFE!
• POST IT NOTE / MANTRA: I am a warrior, never a victim